How to do the black widow pole dance move

Violator. This move is also called the violator. I could not remember that in the video and actually only came across someone's posting with that name of it in the last 2 weeks hence the timing for the last 2 tutorials. They kind of go together because they are similar but like all moves that are alike, just because you can do one doesn't mean you'll have an easy time doing the other. 

Even though I say in the video that the pole is where you think it is you still want to try to be off to one side or the other and make sure to put the pole on the fattest part of your butt that you can.