Oh this one can be so scary. I actually used to do this a different way from the way it teach it here. I used to put my bottom hand on 1st. The method has evolved over time and this is the best and safest way to get into the move. Note how close the hands are together.
There are many variations of this move and the bendier your back the more options you will have to play with. Don't worry if you're not contortion level bendy though you can still make the hold look really cool.
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